The Things You Don’t See In A Picture


“Welcome to Facebook, the place where relationships are perfect, liars believe their own bs & the world shows off they are living a great life. Where your enemies are the ones that visit your profile most. Your friends & family block you, and even though you write what you are really thinking, there is always someone that takes it the wrong way.” Author unknown

I have read several articles lately suggesting that photos posted on social media are misleading. They complained that everybody has these picture perfect families online and that most of these people were full of crap. This made me a little bit sad because it seemed like such a negative thing to say about a happy family photograph. Why do we assume that these people are not happy? It also made me think, as someone who likes to post photos of her family, am I trying to portray that I have the perfect family? Have I inadvertently entered myself in some sort of Facebook family-off by putting up smiling photos of myself with my husband & child? No one photo could ever tell the whole story & no family is perfect. Ours is no different from anyone else’s. We have our ups & downs and our highs & lows.

This weekend we went to Memphis. My husband was running a marathon there, so we made a mini vacation out of it. Here is a photo that I posted to my Facebook page of our trip.


It made me think. What is it exactly that I am hiding behind our smiling faces?

This photo does not portray the tension between my husband & me while we hustled and bustled through the airport lugging our child, our luggage, a car seat & a stroller. There is no evidence of us having to pull our daughter off of Elvis’ bed or chase her under the ropes blocking off landmark rooms while at the famous estate. You cannot see the disapproving looks of other tourists and workers during our tours. In no way would you know that we had to battle with our excited toddler to go to sleep each night so that we could also lay our exhausted heads down on our pillows. There were no photos taken of our daughter back talking us or of either of us losing our cool with her. No I guess you cannot see any of these things.

What you also did not see was a tender moment when my husband slow danced with his daughter at the airport simply because she asked him too. You cannot see the excitement on our daughter’s face at being on her very first plane ride. She may have gotten a few disapproving looks, but she also received a lot of smiles as she shook her little behind & danced to the King’s greatest hits. The camera also missed a few stolen romantic moments between my husband & I. There were laughs, hugs, smiles & kisses that were also not captured on film, but they didn’t need to be.

In this negative world that we live in, why can’t a happy family photo be just what it is, a great memory filled with many hidden layers. I do have a happy family filled with flaws and imperfections. We may not be perfect, but we have moments that feel like perfection. Those are the moments that make this life so worth living. Let’s embrace them and not judge them.



About The Pinterested Parent

I am loving wife to my best friend & mommy to our smarty pants little girl, who loves to learn, craft & play. I am an artist, a crafter & I am Pinterest addict. When I first started my blog it was meant to be an outlet for my Pinterest addiction. I was looking to inspire & be inspired. What it became was a wonderful journey for me & my daughter in which we chronicle our activities, crafts, lessons & a hefty slice of our life. Please join us as we navigate through this wonderful thing called motherhood.
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15 Responses to The Things You Don’t See In A Picture

  1. Aww, glad you got to make a mini trip of this and I know this feeling well. Even yesterday when we took the kids to see Big Hero 6, we had a great time, but afterwards both kids melted down a bit in the mall for differing reasons and with great times always remember to come not so great times, too. So yes we totally get it too!

  2. Carl Okuyama says:

    Your’e right we all have storms, I’m no different, and your not alone. You’re an awesome and busy mom! Hang in there it gets better after making it through the storms.

  3. The real me says:

    Reblogged this on abracadabrasite and commented:
    It is a shame that so many feel the need to be so judgemental of others.

  4. It is a shame. There is far too much negativity in this world. How can anyone find fault in a happy photo? Thank you for the reblog.

  5. pjmcc2014 says:

    Excellent post, I find that the storms that lurk in the background of photos are what generate the best memories sometimes, it’s what makes us unique in a world where photos can be repetitive..

    • Thank you. I agree. At the time it was definitely not fun chasing our daughter under the ropes at Graceland or pulling her off of Elvis’s bed, but to look back at it now it makes me laugh. Perfection is boring. If everything always went exactly as planned where would the adventure in life be?

  6. Mallorye says:

    I live about 1.5 from Memphis! But back on topic. I agree. It’s the memories behind the photo that make the photo great whether it’s good, bad or both.

  7. I couldn’t agree more!

  8. Dasman says:

    Great truth in what you have written. Being a hobbyist photographer, my aim is to capture the moment, whether it be of the kids or my wife or family. Yes sometimes getting to that “moment” is a minefield, but when you get to that happy moment as a family, that’s what makes life and “that” photo and memory all the more special

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