Do You Kiss Your Child On The Lips?

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There was a lot of controversy this week regarding a photo that was released of Bill Belichick kissing his grown daughter on the lips after the Superbowl. I saw all of the jokes on social media & the jabs at him from news outlets. Jokes of incest and words of disgust were aimed at this family over what people perceived as inappropriate.

I have heard this topic debated often. Should we kiss our children on the lips?

I am not sure if you can put a yes or no answer to this question. This is for each parent to decide. Who are we to judge how a parent kisses their child? Why is this so taboo? Why does it make on-lookers so squeamish? What makes it so weird?

I come from a family of mouth kissers. At 40 years old, I still kiss my father on the lips. I also kiss my aunts & uncles in a similar fashion. When my husband & I kiss our daughter, it is sometimes on the head, it is sometimes on the cheek & often times, yes, it is on the lips. There is nothing sexual about these kisses. They are not perverse. They are quick, close lipped smooches with our child.

For those that are looking at me with appall, I look back at you with equal appall. It disgusts me that a symbol of affection such as a kiss with my daughter could be viewed as anything but. It sickens me to think that a kiss from my father could be construed as passionate & not paternal. We all were raised in different households, with different family cultures. Every family is different. For me, I don’t know any other way. It is as natural for me to kiss my family on the mouth, as it is for others to give a peck on the cheek. While you may not understand it or agree with it, please respect it.

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Paper Swedish Heart Baskets

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It has been a rough winter in New England. On Monday, we had yet another storm, a big one.  We added another foot of snow to last week’s accumulation.

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Sufficed to say, we were snow bound & stuck home. My mother-in-law got caught up in the storm & was snowed in with us. Mai & I were making glittery paper hearts, when my mum-in-law asked me if I knew how to make a Swedish heart. I did not. She gave me a quick tutorial & weaved a lovely heart out of newspaper to practice.  They were so cute & easy to make. She showed me how they formed a little pocket & I thought how cute these would be for our daughter to give out filled with little Valentine’s candies.

Paper Swedish Heart Baskets

All you need for this craft is some paper, glue & scissors.

Choose 2 different colored pieces of paper. Fold each piece in half. Cut out a shape like shown below, rounding the tops of the unfolded edge.

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Overlap the shapes so that they form a heart shape.

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Draw a faint line across the top edge of the overlap on each side of your heart.

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Cut 1 slit 1/3 of the width of one of the shapes. Cut from the folded edge up to the line that you just drew. Cut a second slit another 1/3 of the way the same way. Do this to the other shape as well.

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This should give you 3 even loops on each.

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Start weaving your two hearts together. Stick the 3rd loop from the green through the first loop on the purple shape as shown below.

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Pull the same purple loop through the 2nd green loop.

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Work that same purple loop all the way over & insert the 1st green loop into the purple to finish off the first weave.

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Push the purple shape all the way up to the top of the green shape to make room to start your next loop. Start this row the opposite way this time, pulling the next purple row through the green & then continue to alternate in this pattern until the end.

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Add a couple of strips of paper to the inside of each side to make handles.

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Fill the basket with some treats.

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Thanks Nana for teaching me something new. These will be adorable to give to Mai & her friends.

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Some Day My Prince Will Come

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Like many young girls, my daughter is caught up in the fairy tale world of princesses and princes. She parades around our home in her princess dresses and tiaras almost every day. “Princesses don’t wear pants, mama.” They do however, wear gowns & sneakers like it is their job.

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Lately, she has been bringing her father into her world of make believe.
“Prince, prince, where are you prince?”
“Prince, please get me some juice.”

Her prince is always happy to oblige.

I think about this fairy tale world that she lives in right now. In these stories the prince is always dashing and handsome with great hair, a sparkling smile and the ability to slay dragons. It is love at first sight. True love is portrayed with song and dance routines and of course everyone always lives happily ever after.

In the real world if you went around singing & dancing, they might have you committed. Love is seldom at first sight & that dashing prince might be a wise cracking bald guy. Not every relationship is a whirlwind romance, but that does not mean that it is not a great love story. The man that wins your heart might not be handsome or dashing, but he makes your heart skip a beat. In a real fairy tale the prince & princess have their ups & downs. They fight, they make up. You might not get a happy ending. You might get left with a broken heart. Life is not a fairy tale.

I hope that as you get older, you realize that real love is not what you read in your story books or see in the movies. There are no big dramatic gestures. John Cusack will not be outside of your window holding up a boom box. There will not be a mail box full of love letters from Ryan Gosling. Real love is flawed, it takes work. It requires communication, patience & understanding.

Real princes are men like your father. They clean off your car when it snows outside. They make supper when you are running late. They get up in the middle of the night to change poopy diapers and they are great fathers. Prince Charming may have slayed a dragon, but he never slept on the floor at the foot of his sick daughter’s bed. That’s a real prince.

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Bongo Drums Craft

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There are days that I have a particular activity or craft in mind. I have all of our tools out and ready to go, when Mai changes the whole plan with her own ideas.

I have a set of wooden spoons that have seen better days. They were old & cracking and looking sad. My mother-in-law bought us a new set of bamboo spoons, so it was time to get rid of my old ones.

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As I hate to throw out anything, I had a craft in mind for me & Mai. We were going to make spoon dolls. We had all the paint out and were about to start painting when Mai grabbed the spoons & a few containers and showed off her drumming skills.
“Drums are my favorite instrument mama? What is yours?”
“Mama’s favorite is a guitar.”
“I like drums, mama. This is my drum set.”

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Far be it for me to try to argue with a toddler. I would hate to take her drum sticks away to make dolls out of them, so we will keep them as drum sticks & make her a set of drums instead.

What you will need:

Empty oat containers (any size)

Paint – Kid’s washable paints work fine or acrylics

Yarn

Construction paper or foam

Hot glue gun – ***Glue guns should be used by adults only***

Optional items – Gems, glitter, tissue paper, pom poms etc..

Directions:

Start with a clean & empty oat’s container. Peel off the label around the container.

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Remove the lids & paint your containers in a color of your choosing. The drums had to be pink for our little princess. Mai was very thorough & wanted to make sure she painted the inside as well. I helped her smooth out the paint and fill in the bare spots. Let the paint dry.

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Paint your spoons and let dry.

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While your paint is drying, cut out some thin strips of construction paper or foam pieces.

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With a glue gun, glue the yarn into a zig zag pattern up & down on each drum. (Glue gun should be used by an adult.)

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Put the lids back on the containers. Wrap the pre-cut strips around the top & bottom of the drums. Use a hot glue gun to hold it in place. Use a few pieces to add to the top & bottom of your spoon handles as well.

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We added a gem between the centers of our zig zags on each side. Use whatever craft materials you have available to decorate it in a design of your own choosing.

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My little drummer rocked out both with her drum sticks and without. I think we have a future musician in our midst.

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8 Steps To Romance On Valentine’s Day If You Have Kids —&—Sunday’s Best Link-Up #5- Love Is In The Air

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February is almost here. With February comes thoughts of love, cupids, hearts & arrows. Valentine’s Day is a time to show your mate how much you love & appreciate them. When you’re parents, it is not always easy to fit the romance in, but here are a few simple steps to make it a memorable & romantic day for your sweetheart.

Step 1. Take a shower – I realize we should be doing this the other 364 days a year, but surprisingly enough this does not always happen as much as we would like. Since you are in the shower already, it probably wouldn’t kill you to shave those legs of yours.

Step 2. Leave your granny panties in the drawer & trade them in for a pair of your sexiest undies.  Since it is a special occasion break out your good sweats. You want to impress your man after all.

Step 3. Make him his favorite meal of a slab of meat wrapped in bacon & topped with bacon.

Step 4. Let him watch Sport Center instead of Doc McStuffins.

Step 5. Whisper to your husband those words that he loves to hear. “Honey, I will put the kid/kids to bed tonight.”

Step 6. Pour your husband a tall beer in his favorite Best Daddy mug.

Step 7. Give your guy a back rub for more than 30 seconds. You are not allowed to complain, whine or let out any bored sighs. Do it with a smile.

Step 8. Dim the lights, strip off your sweatpants & do what you both have been thinking about doing all day. .. fall asleep.

Don’t worry tomorrow, you can break out the granny panties again.

Speaking of romance… I am excited to be teaming up with my friend Rhonda over at Mother 2 Mother for the 5th installment of Sunday’s Best Link up. This is a great opportunity to meet new bloggers & show of your best of the best. This week’s theme is LOVE IS IN THE AIR. If you do not have a love themed post, no worries. We would love to see any of your favorite posts.

Please join us …

Welcome to Week 5 of  Mother 2 Mother’s Sunday’s Best Linkup Each month we will feature a theme, this month the theme is Love Is In the Air. Smooches! Please share your favorite posts on anything or anyone that you love. This can be recipes, Valentine’s crafts, scrapbook layouts, how you met your husband or significant other, your children etc. You decide.  


Don’t have posts that fit into the theme, link up whatever post you would like to share. Anything goes here. You may link as many posts as you would like. Each week a post will be selected and featured the following week.  An image from your post will be used on my blog the following week with a link back to your blog.  Be sure to check back to see if you’re the Sunday’s Best featured blogger of the week. 




Please meet my new host, Kim, and her beautiful daughter from Pinterested Parent. Kim shared a great post last week Why 40 Is Not The New 20.  I had to pick myself up off the floor from laughing so hard. Please check it out and connect with her.  


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Journey To Organization  – Sew Crafty Angel

All of the posts were great, and I appreciate each of you linking up.  Take a minute to visit this great blog and connect with Angie.  This lady is crafty and her blog is filled with great craft ideas.  


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